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[15][16] On May 21, 2012, a memorial service organized by the Richardson family was held at the Standard Hotel in Manhattan. And then came an even uglier spectacle: a battle between the two families as they lined up on a field of combat that ranged from the funeral and the burial ground to the spin in the media. Mary called all the restaurants in the district saying, "Hi, I'm Mary Richardson, and I'm helping Joe Kennedy's campaign. But it had cost double the original estimate, and now, half a dozen years after starting the project, the solar panels were already falling apart, and it was costing $40,000 a month to maintain the house and staff. WHITE PLAINS, N.Y. -- The last time anyone saw Mary Kennedy alive was a year ago Wednesday. "She was the kindest person I've ever met. Her father John F. Richardson was an attorney and professor and mother Nancy Higgins is a public school English teacher. Despondent, Richardson spent Tuesday holed up in her bedroom alone. I come from a big family and the Kennedys are a big family. Mary Richardson. Mary, too, was more serious than she once had been, working as an architect on her own environmentally conscious projects. Pointing to Aidan, she screamed, 'You told this child you didn't love me?' And so the judge ruled. Hines has a 16-year-old daughter, Catherine Rose, from her previous marriage to Paul Young. They couldn't take their eyes off each other, couldn't keep their hands off each other. . You can find out more and change our default settings with Cookies Settings. As one of the most prominent members of his family, Kennedy Jr. has attracted controversy in recent years over his public position against vaccination a view some of his relatives criticized last year. Her behavior often became violent and destructive.". The estranged wife of Robert F. Kennedy Jr. was found dead in a barn on the family's Bedford, N.Y., property on May 16. She was a beautiful, charming, enthusiastic, devoted, loving mother, but Mary had serious demons that she could not get under control., On the road to dying there are many little deaths. The body of the late Mary Richardson Kennedy, the estranged wife of Robert F. Kennedy Jr., was exhumed last week and moved from its original spot among the Kennedy clan. "Mary was fooling around with Bobby when he was married to Emily, but that marriage was essentially over," says one of Bobby's closest friends. Mary's best chance to get her children back was to do well with a psychological evaluation that would determine long-term custody. Thomas Richardson, the titular leader of the family, replied, asking that these emails stop: "We will be forced to respond in kind, and the record that we will be forced to set forth is not one that Bobby will be pleased to have on paper or in electronic form.". Elle souffrait de dpression. Even hed cop to that.). Three days later, jumping a curb at a school carnival, Richardson picked up a DWI (ultimately downgraded to a motor vehicle violation). Her Putney roommate was Kerry Kennedy, Bobby's younger sister. [1] She reportedly struggled with alcoholism and substance abuse. The gaping hole that she leaves in our family is a wound too large to ever heal.. Mary Kennedy is shown at The Plaza Hotel in New York City in this December 2002 file photo. Kennedy struggled with substance abuse and reportedly showed unfaithfulness several times. Her apparent suicide was widely seen as the latest tragedy to befall the political dynasty. "I called Mary's sisters, and they said, 'OK, we're going there,'" says the Colombian housekeeper, who spoke to me on the condition that her name not be used. 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Richardson eventually died by suicide in 2012, per . Mary Richardson Kennedy's life had both highlights and troubled moments, just like other members of the famous political family she married into in 1994. I adored her. She was 76 years old. So for her to go from that to drinking bottles a day, hiding them in her closet, was astonishing. [11][12] Her death was ruled as a suicide by hanging. But I lived it. I never held her accountable because that was her disease, not who she was as a person, and we all knew it., Indeed, according to documents seen exclusively by The Daily Beast that delineated Richardsons mental-health issues from early adolescence through her first year of marriage, Richardson, throughout her life, was waging a cyclical battle with her own mental healthongoing feelings of depression, self-loathing, and low self-esteem. She did not want her marriage to end and that reality was slowly, progressively coming. ), In two seconds flat, says Hoving, Mary could flip from anger and rage into white-picket-fence mode, put on her Martha Stewart face and convince anybody, including her own family, that she was in control of her faculties, environment, and personal matters. May 17, 2012 -- The four children of Robert Kennedy Jr. and Mary Kennedy face a complicated grieving process in the aftermath of her suicide, mental health experts . Bobby had what his brother Doug called the Kennedy "St. Francis complex," always trying to do good and help people, and he reached out to Mary as if reaching out to a version of himself. Mary's mood vacillated between rage and self-pity. I literally watched her social media stories earlier that day, less than 12 hours before the story broke, says a friend of Saoirses from Boston College, Bill Stone. [3][1], Richardson attended Brown University and studied architectural design at the Rhode Island School of Design (RISD). Friends are divided as to whenor ifRichardson had a plan to take her life, though it is known that she asked the caretaker, three weeks earlier, to buy a rope, ostensibly for a crafts project. The popular, single architect at Manhattans prestigious Parrish Hadley Design firm, who hung in SoHo and ran with Andy Warhol, was in her urban element. She said I should come over and spend the night in my old room with the kids who were distraught. Richardson countered, says a friend, with unconditional love, constantly protecting, praising her husband. It was always, Bobby, Bobby, Bobby, adds another. For a decade Richardson co-hosted the annual Holiday at Pops! Accuses Mary Kennedy . And the saddest part is that this beautiful woman, who was the light of her childrens lives, could not see that life was worth living just for them., Texted the news in court, Bienstock was dumbstruck. Mary had been getting more labile and desperate, he recalls, still puzzled, but I didnt think it would ever come to that. "I saw her in the kitchen, like with her head down, and I was like, Oh, golly, she's talking on the phone and crying," says the housekeeper, who had lived with the couple throughout their entire marriage. If you or someone you know is considering suicide, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), text home to the Crisis Text Line at 741-741 or go to suicidepreventionlifeline.org. "She would go into a kind of altered state which we came to call her 'episodes,'?" Heres Mary, teetering, possibly suicidal. Was I surprised that Mary killed herself? From then on, every time that Bobby tried to leave, says a Kennedy insider, Mary would threaten to commit suicide. Mary Richardson Kennedy was active for years with the Boys . That's the portrait that emerges from a sealed, 60-page court affidavit filed by Bobby during divorce . In the document, Bobby made the startling claim that Mary was physically abusing him and threatening suicide in front of the children. Mary Kennedy's death still puzzles friends. NEW: Mary Kennedy, 52, died of asphyxiation due to hanging, a local official says. In every way, brilliant, beloved, great friends, Mary won the lottery but, long before Bobby, there were these times of devastating, debilitating pain., Though her death blindsided most, for her family and a handful of confidantes, it was the tragic culmination of years of threatsapparently, not always taken seriously by her five siblings. [4], After studying architecture at RISD, Richardson lived in SoHo, Manhattan, in the 1980s, and was active in the bohemian culture. Her engagement ring crushed my tear duct causing permanent damage Mary asked me to lie to her family about the cause of my shiner. And so it was with Mary Richardson in the weeks leading up to her death on the Bedford estate that she shared with environmental lawyer and activist Robert Kennedy and their four children. Whatever her demons, Mary Richardson Kennedy had finally escaped them. I asked to speak to Mom and Mary came on the phone. Centerville, Barnstable County, Massachusetts, USA. (Philandering isnt a sufficient word, sniffs Bienstock. I see her now sinking into a terrible darkness. In 1986, she went to work on Joe's congressional campaign and brought some of her trademark mischievousness to the old Boston tradition of handing out coffee and doughnuts on Election Day. Bobby loved Mary, muses an old friend of both. Here was the womanizing Bobby, always described as a former heroin addict, leading his innocent wife to her death, yet another victim of an overweening male egoand he did so while flaunting his affair with actress Cheryl Hines, who played Larry David's wife on Curb Your Enthusiasm. Of the grandchildren of Joseph and Rose Kennedy, the offspring of Robert Sr. and Ethel Skakel Kennedy had been the most troubled. Saoirse, who had spoken candidly about her years-long depression and the need to de-stigmatize discussions of mental health, was found unresponsive at the Kennedy family compound on Thursday and pronounced dead soon after. In the last week of her life, however, Richardson, seemed to methodically arrange to spend time with each of her four children, whom she hadnt seen since her Easter tumble off the wagon had made the court take away her visitation rights. That wasnt what was going on between them., Mary was brainwashed, adds another Richardson friend, believing everything that Bobby said. Mary Kathleen Richardson was born on October 4, 1959, and was raised in Bayonne, New Jersey. The Richardson family slammed Kennedys account of their relationship, saying it was full of vindictive lies. Richardson was devastated. Take a look inside the family home of Mary Richardson Kennedy and her estranged husband . They together have four children: John Conor Richardson Kennedy, Kyra LeMoyne Kennedy, William Finbar Kennedy, and Aidan Caohman Vieques Kennedy.. Burial. Heartsick, depressed, agonizingly lonely, she would disappear for days behind her locked bedroom doors. By 2003 Bobby wanted out, and he started living a single man's life. Confronting Kennedy, Nan Richardson is said to have angrily announced: You killed my sister. Its unconscionable of the Richardsons to say that, responds a confidante of both families. Horror. So she was stuck. The transfer of her body to the other end of the cemetery is the latest incident in the bitter feud between the Kennedy and Richardson families following the death of Mary. A Collection of Interesting, Important, and Controversial Perspectives Largely Excluded from the American Mainstream Media And on Easter Sunday morning she attended mass with daughter Kyra, later in the day briefly seeing 11-year-old Aiden when he was brought over to swim by Kennedy who, honoring a court order forbidding the pair to be in each others homes, remained in the driveway while Richardson stayed upstairs. Six weeks before her suicide, yoga instructor Breeckner visited Richardson in Bedford, where I found Mary, sitting alone in the dark, crying., In March, however, determined to get her children back, Richardson rallied, immersing herself in AA, attending meetings and revitalizing her yoga practice, more upbeat than she had been in months. Whenever Bobby mentioned divorce, she would threaten suicide, but the next morning she would be calm and gentle. Robert F. Kennedy Jr., left, and his children turn away after paying their respects at the casket of Mary Richardson Kennedy, in St. Francis Xavier Cemetery in Centerville, Mass., Saturday, May 19, 2012. As news of her death circulated . She was ethereal but not fragilefearless, really, with amazing optimism and fortitude., So persuasive was Richardsons public persona that when her yoga instructor, Colleen Breeckner, called some of Richardsons friends four months before she died, saying that she feared her student was suicidal, nobody believed that shed kill herself, she says. Eventually, it took over and she became a full-blown alcoholic.. Hennessey represented the Richardsons in their attempt to have Mary buried closer to her childrens home. We loved Mary and the notion that this trash was put out there, for her childrens friends and teachers to read, I could no longer hold back., The debate came to a head in the library of the Kennedys Bedford estate the night that Richardson died. "Daddy, I think Mary is stealing from me," Kick said, as Bobby recalled in the affidavit. He alleges that Kick told him that Mary would take her into a closed room to harangue her about her many supposed faults, including the way she dressed. Three days later, she was arrested and charged with driving under the influence. He was a god. Even when Kennedy came clean about other women, Mary justified [it by saying] that he was an addictive personality, adds a close friend, with a disease, but in her heart she knew., Kennedy had mentioned divorce previously, but on Fathers Day in 2006, he finally told his wife that he was getting a divorce and leftreturning two weeks later when Richardson refused to let him see the children. And that night her slide toward suicide gathered steam when two visitors, including a Kennedy sister-in-law, according to accounts of the Bedford police report, showed up at the Kennedy estate, where someone made it clear that if she [Richardson] didnt take a certain actionits unclear whatshe would lose everything including permanent custody of her children. Mary Kennedy (ne Richardson), pouse de Robert F. Kennedy Jr., s'est donn la mort le 16 mai 2012, 52 ans. It feels natural. (Grant Delin/Corbis Outline) Mary was a fabulous mother and, like all of us, a flawed adult whose problems stemmed from her husbands conduct and her drinking, caused by specific stimuli, with Bobbywho could anger, frustrate, belittle her into taking a drinkas provocateur, the attorney continues. Kennedys still have connections like few families in America, and after Hankin diagnosed the disorder, Bobby and Mary arranged a meeting with Dr. John Gunderson, a Harvard psychiatrist who is often called the father of BPD. The caretaker oftentimes gets exhausted by the unrealistic expectations. In part, this was the legacy of their father's assassination in 1968, but also the emotional inheritance from the Skakel side, whose wildness went far beyond that of the Kennedys. "Once, during dinner, Mary grabbed a plate of spaghetti and threw it all on Bobby in front of the children," says the housekeeper. At 22, her anorexia, diagnosed as a teenager, landed her in Bostons McLean Hospital for three months. She had the childrenConor, 17, Kyra, 16, Fin, 14, and Aidan, 10all staying with her at the family home in Westchester County, N.Y. Mary's eldest sister, book editor Nan Richa rdson, was also involved in human rights causes with Kerry Kennedy, now divorced from Cuomo. But perhaps Bobby wasn't guilty. Mary Richardson Kennedy attends the 2009 Annual Food Allergy Ball at The Waldorf=Astoria on December 7, 2009 in New York City. For the first time, Kennedy fell wildly, romantically in love. [6], Richardson married Robert F. Kennedy, Jr., the brother of Kerry Kennedy, on April 15, 1994, aboard a research vessel on the Hudson River. There was a sense of foreboding in this lean Kennedy prince who had seen so much pain and drowned it in drugs. So for several yearsshe never agreed on settlement termsmy job was to keep it from happening., On that same Fathers Day, Kennedy told Richardson that, feeling unwillingly married, he was going to be unfaithful. That was when Bobby and Mary saw each other as if for the first time. Rushing over, he checked the attic before tracking down Shannon White, Richardsons AA sponsor, at an 11 a.m., Armonk AA meeting. She was particularly attracted to sophisticated, dangerous men who often had among their assets titles and fortunes. ), Bienstock has his own view. Unless there was a crisis, she never had anything to do with the Richardsons. A friend recalls asking then Brown Universitybound Kerry and Mary where they saw themselves in 25 years: Kerry [said], With a couple kids in a house in a city, while Mary, in her dreamy way, goes: That sounds really nice. NEW: Mary Kennedy, 52, died of asphyxiation due to hanging, a local official says. Mary Richardson Kennedy (born Mary Kathleen Richardson; October 4, 1959 - May 16, 2012) was an American interior designer, architect, and philanthropist. [10], On May 16, 2012, Richardson was found dead at her home in Bedford, New York. Shortly after her husband's 1968 assassination, Kennedy founded the Robert F. Kennedy Center for Justice and Human Rights. Mary seemed to have every one of the nine, including a perceived sense of abandonment, a lack of identity, recklessness, suicidal threats, intense feelings of emptiness, and inappropriate displays of anger. At that time, there was another Mary Richardson, the beloved local newscaster. Robert could really push her buttons; make her happy if she thought theyd reconcile, sad if he said they werent. The scurrilous affidavit, which is the entire basis for the Newsweek article, was written by Bobby Kennedy as part of a contentious custody battle and was nothing more than a brutal psychological weapon in the divorce case. The enigmatic title of British-Iranian author Melody Razak's debut novel Moth puzzled me at first. [14] Her funeral, organized by the Kennedy family, was held at St. Patrick Catholic Church in Bedford, New York. They adored both parentswho were trying to do the best they could with what they had., While Mary cherished, desperately wanted to be, those kids mother, adds Bienstock, she could be sober or not, depending on what came out of Bobbys mouth. "She tried very hard, and part of it was going to therapy and talking about it. A few days before she died, a friend who had dinner with Mary and the kids said, She seems to be doing great. Robert F. Kennedy Jr. Shares Sweet Family Photos in Honor of Son Conor's 26th Birthday, Kerry Kennedy Spends Time with Mom Ethel, 92 'Through a Plastic Sheet for Covid Safety! Dressed always elegantly in black as she danced through the nightlife of the city, she intimidated most men. On June 17, 2011, he wrote an email to them saying, "Mary is a wonderful, generous, kind, and wise person but depression and illness are now killing her. I do not believe this is accurate. Mary wanted to prevent a divorce, not get one, he says. Never angry. The Skakels had their share of scandal, too: Michael Skakel would be convicted in 2002 of murdering 15-year-old Martha Moxley, bludgeoning her to death with a golf club. They were both recovering in 12-step programs and had exhibited destructive, addictive behavior. Almost everyone, including Mary's own therapists, thought that the marriage was so damaging to both of them that it must end. He is a philanderer, an adulterer, a sex addict.' She was a proponent of green building and was a co-founder of the Food Allergy Initiative, the largest fund for food allergy research in the United States. Tying the perfect knot would have appealed to Marys extreme sense of order., The story of Mary Richardson Kennedy is a tale of two Marys, one told by those who lived with her, the other by those who did not, for whom she was the life of the party, says one of her closest friends, the first person on anyones list, at home in Studio 54 or a Honduran village, hugely curious, always reading books, writing diaries, keeping up with friends, organizing the next event. 1878-1974, May 04, 1951, Page PAGE THREE, Image 3, brought to you by University of Delaware Library, Newark, DE, and the National Digital Newspaper Program. She struck me maybe 30 more times or more. She married Robert F. Kennedy Jr . Attorney Steve McSweeney, who represented Kennedy in court, declined comment. 8. "She had [our youngest son] Aidan call me to tell me. Mary, who hung herself at 52 amid a deteriorating marriage with Robert F. Kennedy Jr., struggled with depression before her death. I know you have told me that her frequent suicide threats are not real. I thought, Bobbys finally found this wonderful woman. In fact, Richardson fell so madly in love, sums up a longtime observer, becoming so emotionally invested in Bobby, that she lost sight of a life outside that marriage., Dogs and kids, that was Marys house, laughs a frequent visitor. I never saw him raise his voicewhich doesnt mean he wasnt furious inside. She later roomed with Kerry Kennedy in college and served as her maid of honor at her wedding in 1990 to Andrew Cuomo. Marys was a classic mental illness, maintains Kerry Kennedy, Richardsons best friend since the pair were boarding-school roommates at Putney, which made her so unlike herselfkind, generous, a wonderful mother, perfect friend, force for good on our earththat it was as if shed been invaded by a foreign body. Stan Leven was married to long-time Boston broadcaster Mary Richardson, who died at 76 on Thursday, December 30, 2021. Every time I saw it happening, it scared me. View full size Associated Press, File In this photo of April 6, 2010, Robert Kennedy Jr. and his wife, Mary Richardson Kennedy, pose for a photo outside their Bedford, N.Y. home. President John F. Kennedy; his wife, Jackie, and his brothers Sens. [2], She attended The Putney School, where she became friends and roommates with Kerry Kennedy, the daughter of Robert F. Kennedy and Ethel Skakel Kennedy. Minutes later, Kennedy showed up, and ignoring Whites admonishmentDont go in therebrushed past. She seemed happy, Stone recalls but says, I knew she had her demons. In 1997, after three years of marriage, Bobby asked Mary for a divorce. He has two children with his first wife, Emily Black, and four kids from his marriage to Mary Richardson Kennedy, who died in 2012. In 1993 her hopes were realized when Robert Kennedy Jr., then separated from first wife, Emily Black, ran into Richardson at a New York art gallery. Mary tried, but the kids would call Bobby, complaining, blaming everything on her when he got home. In the summers at their Greenwich, Conn., estate, Ethel and her siblings enjoyed a game of riding up on the backseat of a convertible while the driver passed under low-hanging trees, trying to knock off the passengernot unlike the game of football on skis that Bobby's brother Michael was playing when he crashed into a tree in Aspen in 1997 and died. The former Mary Richardson married Robert Kennedy Jr., a prominent environmental lawyer and the son of Sen. Robert F. Kennedy and nephew of President John F. Kennedy, in 1994 aboard a boat in the . Her birth name is Mary Kathleen Richardson. Bobby went on to write in his affidavit that "a few weeks later, looking for something in Mary's bureau, I found a collection of Kick's lost items concealed beneath a layer of Mary's clothing." If she wasnt the perfect wife and mother that she projected herself to be, then what was she?. Perhaps nobody was guilty. Kennedy claimed his wife beat him, threatened suicide in front of her children, ran over the family dog and drank until she passed out. Kerry Kennedy, at boarding school and was a maid of honor at her wedding . Though their marriage seemed to be ending, Bobby wanted to give his wife a purpose and their relationship a final chance, so he agreed to let her redo the house. Sometimes in the middle of the night, Bobby would awake to find Mary standing over his bed, beating him, according to the affidavit. There was no way that this woman was not very, very sick.. And then there were the children, now facing a lifetime of emotional confusion because of their mothers unexplained actions. In a story told in Bobby's affidavit and confirmed by one of his friends, the first major crisis in their marriage concerned the way Mary treated Bobby's two children from his first marriage, who stayed with them three weekends a month. She would say she was sorry and didn't know why she was acting this way. He was born and raised in Boston, Massachusetts. The affidavit, which Mary repudiated at the time, is full of vindictive lies. For five years, beginning in 2007, I quietly represented Mary, says Bienstock, but when Bobbys affidavit showed up in printwe thought the court papers were sealedthat was beyond the pale. Bobby said in his affidavit. The pair felt challenges in their marriage soon after exchanging vows. Her 2010 legal separation from her husband, Robert F. Kennedy Jr., was highly publicized. August 5, 2019, 8:35 PM. By clicking Accept All Cookies, you agree to the storing of cookies on your device to enhance site navigation, analyze site usage, and assist in our marketing efforts. There was no greater witness to the chaos than the housekeeper. For a time she would be her old wonderful self at night as well as during the day, and Bobby had renewed hope, the affidavit said. Moreover, she was now living alone in a big, empty house. A fearless adventurer, she inspired curiosity and daring in her friends. The pressure on Mary, says a friend, was now more than it had ever been before.. In any room, Mary was the most striking and confident, the girl who walked on air, recalls a friend, unaware of the crippling insecurity behind her bravura. It is thought that this hypersensitivity is present even in childhood, during which they will often feel neglected or mistreated. Robert F. Kennedy Jr.'s estranged wife, Mary Richardson Kennedy, who had fought drug and alcohol problems, was found dead in her home Wednesday, according to . When he told her that he was afraid that his missing wife might have hurt herself, White said, according to the police report, that didnt make sense because of the sobriety work Mary had been doing with AA the last couple months.